Dating a coworker can be one of the worst mistakes you can make. Avoid doing so with these 5 tips.
#1 – Be Sure She Wants Your Advances
Before you even get to the dating a coworker stage you need to be sure she would even consider it. In this day and age of borderline sexual harassment and crazy claims, you need to be absolutely sure she is okay with your advances or risk losing your job. Before approaching a woman you want to get to know, understand the definition and signs of flirting. This will go a long way in keeping you from embarrassing yourself as well.
#2 – Keep It Professional
The most successful couples draw a strong boundary line between their work and romantic lives. They didn’t drive to work together, eat lunch together, smooch each other in sight of their co-workers and then hang out in each other’s offices behind closed doors. Their workday is their workday, and their personal life is their personal life. Co-workers appreciate this boundary too because no one likes kissing in the office.
Try to stay away from those frequent lunch dates as well. Obviously people are watching and can tell when you are doing a once in a while thing compared to an every other day habit. People are not always happy for other peoples’ happiness, and doing so can lead to whispers, jealousy, and complaints to management simply because they are mad about your new relationship status. Yes people are that petty.
#3 – Keep It Quiet As Long As Possible
No need to send a blast email with the news of your new relationship. As a matter of fact stay away from emailing as well as you may end up BC or CC-ing someone the details (or pictures) of the late night escapade you and your significant had. That would be a huge fail and may also lead to termination. Once you have a sense that this might have a future, talk to your partner and decide how and when you want to disclose your relationships to your colleagues.
If the gossip hounds sniff it out and it becomes something of rumor, then it might be the right time to come clean. If nobody seems to notice, there’s no reason to share.
#4 – Move on if necessary
What do you do if you and your partner break up but still run into each other every day? Creating distance between you and your ex by moving to a different department or a new city with the same company is one way to handle it. But who really wants to do something that drastic? You were both adult enough to engage in the relationship in the first place, you should both be adult enough to move on without such drastic measures. If the problem is her/him and not you then you may be SOL, and a clean break may actually be necessary.
#5 – Don’t get labeled the office slut
Yes even we guys can be labeled with this damning title. Not to mention, the odds of having a sexual harassment suit slapped on you is going to be higher if your female coworkers feel like you’re just trying to get the next notch on your belt. If there’s a coworker that you have a true interest in, proceed. But don’t start looking at your office as your personal pick up palace.